It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy.
GEORGE HORACE LORIMER, Old Gorgon Graham
Have you noticed lately that the cost of living has gone up? Ok before you write my question off as being idiotic, ponder this next question and ask yourself: What price are we actually paying “to live”?
Most of us have heard examples of single mothers working 2-3 jobs in order to put food on the table for her children, or to send a child to college, only to hear years later that the child was molested by a caretaker and emotionally scarred for life, or became addicted to drugs and wound up in a gang or prison. In many cases these wounded adults would later testify while in therapy or a recovery program “all I wanted was their time and attention”.
My intention is not to cast scrutiny and judgement on anyone attempting to merely survive in a society that requires bucks, cheddar, bread, clams, loot, or any of the many other ways to describe this essential tool that impacts just about every facet of our lives. My intention is simply to cast a conscious-raising question to the day-to-day compromises we make to acquire money.
A Gallup poll found that a staggering 70 percent of American workers are disengaged from their jobs. Of the 100 million people who hold jobs in America, the survey found that 30 million are actively engaged, 50 million are not engaged and 20 million are actively disengaged.
As this poll proves, the majority of people drag themselves to a job they don’t like while simultaneously worrying about getting fired. They don’t do this because they’re stupid. They do it because they need the money and they’ve been trained in school and conditioned by society to live in a linear thinking world that equates earning money with physical or mental effort.
A notable phrase I’ve heard often along my life journey is “Don’t hate the player, hate the game”. I truly believe that those who offered this perspective to me had my best intentions in mind, and only wanted to impress upon me how important it is to not take it too personal when I encountered people along my path whose behavior in the pursuit of money seems questionable or shady. To that I pose the question: How many players need to lose before we change the game?
For some, money is the end-game that demands a lion share of our time, attention, and focus. We all need money to live in this society and can’t escape the necessity for it. However, the pursuit of it requires a critical balancing act that can include:
During the month of November Village-Connect will be hosting its monthly Human Sustainably Groups; an intergenerational process and peer support group with and for Bay Area men & boys, women & girls, and families seeking empowerment and connection.
Please join us as we explore how to create a life balance with money that doesn’t victimize you and your family. I welcome your thoughts and opinions and if you are interested in taking part in this interactive dialogue and tool building click below on a corresponding option.
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Written by Gaylon Logan, Jr., Founder/Director